Ellen Vaugn’s biography, Being Elisabeth Elliot, has touched a nerve with a lot of people and rightly so. Anyone who might envy Elisabeth Elliot’s influence and career as a writer, would certainly not envy her personal life and the trials she endured in the second half of her life. The book covers Elisabeth’s 40’s until her death, and many readers aren’t sure what to make of the information it discloses. There are conflicting views.
Here are the issues that I see: Are we disappointed (and frankly, just unwilling to accept) that a great Christian leader had her own struggles with sin? And If we do accept it as true, does that make her a hypocrite? Is one able to encourage and teach other women to Do the Next Thing while she herself is at times falling apart? Does it make her a chameleon if she teaches others to deny themselves and live not by their emotions, and yet inwardly she sometimes falls prey to loneliness and that is reflected in the relationships she has with men?
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Was the book an attempt by a feminist biographer to subtly “cancel” Elisabeth Elliot? I reached out to Valerie Elliot Shepherd weeks ago and asked her thoughts but did not get a reply.
At best I felt the book was not complimentary and I don’t understand why the journal excerpts were chosen as they were. After all, a life is made up of many ups and downs. I would be in the camp that believes some of these secret thoughts should have been omitted.
Those who only knew Elliot as the wife of missionary martyr Jim Elliot, not as the author and speaker of the 80’s, 90’s, early 2000’s, or the host of the radio ministry Gateway to Joy that impacted thousands of women, might be surprised by the book but not floored like others of us. One friend said it left her with a poor impression of Elisabeth Elliot and so she had no desire to read her beautiful books. And so, if you’re reading this and wondering what the big deal is, here is a bit of history:
Back in 1976 Elisabeth Elliot punched the feminist movement in the face when she wrote Let Me Be a Woman. She emboldened a generation of Christian women to joyfully live in submission to their husbands as unto the Lord, and she taught us that women who have the courage to submit to imperfect husbands are not weak but are actually exhibiting great strength from the Lord. She told us it is dying to self that will produce fruit, once we obey the scriptures in this sometimes difficult area.
Was biographer Ellen Vaughn attempting with this book to pull down her teachings and the “purity culture” that some say Elisabeth Elliot fueled with her books Let Me Be a Woman and Passion and Purity? Was she exposing Elliot’s marital trials in order to imply, “This is what can happen to you if you submit to a man” ?
Perhaps it’s a little of both. Maybe the author did have an agenda in what she chose from the journals of Elisabeth Elliot. And maybe it’s also true, that anytime someone disappoints us, we are ready to write them off when the truth is we all sin in various ways and need the mercy and forgiveness of God in Christ, including people we greatly admire.
I think very few of us would feel comfortable with our most secret thoughts being broadcast for all to see. And human experience should teach us that it is one thing to know the will of God and another matter to practice it, especially in our secret heart. It’s also true that human beings are notorious for putting others on pedestals they never asked to be placed upon, and herein lies our disappointment. If I lose respect or love Elisabeth Elliot less after knowing her better, does the problem lie with her sin, or is it a result of the pedestal I had sat her on? We can realize this and learn from it, without condoning the sins of others we admire or relegating them to the hypocrite department.
Lastly, I did not think Ellen Vaughn did justice to Elliot’s achievements as an author or speaker. I gave the book 3 stars on Goodreads for this reason. I also felt that the final chapter of the book was choppy, stuffing the last 30 years of her life into one chapter, saying it was spent with a husband ten years younger than her, who had no job, who mistreated her and exploited her for her fame. Oh and he burned all her most recent journals so – …THE END. Huh?? It’s almost as if the author just got tired of writing. Speaking of which…
I’ve said enough. With motives of the author being in question, it makes it difficult to know how to receive this book. Crossway has published another biography of Elisabeth Elliot you can look at, and I haven’t read it but my daughter says it does contain many of the same facts, but she felt it was done in a more respectful manner.
This book will stir your heart. I’m thankful that Elisabeth is now Home, where she would say her life was all but momentary and light afflictions, not to be compared with the eternal weight of glory that was prepared for her. I remain grateful for the truths she brilliantly and eloquently spoke to women like me, however imperfectly she (and all of us) may apply them at times.
“Of one thing I am perfectly sure: God’s story never ends with ashes.”
Elisabeth Elliot